For many, the holiday season is a time of festivity and joy spent with family and friends. But for those that are separated or divorced, it can be stressful and draining.
Managing the demands of seasonal events as well as trying to figure out how to co-parent is tough. Here are some tips for surviving the holidays during separation or divorce:
Avoid arguments and scheduling stress by determining the holiday arrangements before the holiday season is in full effect. Be sure that this arrangement is in the best interest of the children, and try to keep the arrangements as simple as possible, especially if your children are younger.
Also, create your own schedule and list out everything you need to do for the holidays so that you feel more in control and less stressed.
Especially if this is the first holiday your family is spending apart, you should reassure your children that they will still have an enjoyable holiday. Let them know that you will be okay while they are with the other parent.
There really is no such thing as a “picture perfect” holiday, even for families that are not dealing with separation or divorce. Remind yourself to have realistic expectations for the season, and realize that there are going to be hiccups in your plans, no matter how well thought out they are. Do your best to go with the flow to avoid undue stress on yourself and your children.
Create New Traditions
The first holiday season for a separated or divorced family is usually the hardest. While you and your children may want to hold on to past traditions, it’s also a good idea to create new ones. Embrace your new normal, and have your children help decide on new traditions and ways to celebrate the season.
Take Care of Yourself
Don’t forget to take care of yourself during the holidays. While a lot of your energy may be focused on making sure your children are happy and healthy, you still need to take time for yourself. Rely on a support system of your own, whether it is your own parents or siblings or close friends. Don’t be afraid to ask for help!
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